🫂🧱 Empathy is a stack of feeling, perspective, and judgment, and systems can aim it

xynova — Fri, 10 Apr 2026 08:00:00 +1100

Three kinds of “getting it”

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        B1["See what others see;<br/>track their perspective"]:::pastelNote
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        C((Moral-cognitive empathy ✅)):::pastelMint
        C1["Know guilt even when you win; judge from that guilt state."]:::pastelNote
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Did you know when we ask young kids to share toys, they often cannot fathom why we ask? To them, the toy is theirs, the feeling is obvious, and the rule feels arbitrary.

NotEveryoneFeelsTheSame - Tag - behaviorengineering.ai

🫂🧱 Empathy is a stack of feeling, perspective, and judgment, and systems can aim it

Three kinds of “getting it”